Being old-ish I passed out on the couch last night while watching The Avengers with my sons. I did not watch the ball drop, I did not share a new years kiss, and the two glasses of wine I drank were the closest thing to a party I’ve experienced in a while, but it was an absolutely perfect night regardless.
When I awoke this morning, only the date on the calendar had changed but somehow it felt like everything was different.
I can compare it to the feeling after an undisturbed snow fall, it’s like a fresh start in the exact same place I always have been.
Year after year I have spent this day day wondering, will this be it? Will this be the year I finally achieve great success, perfect health, and ultimately, happiness, and year after year I have been met with disappointment
In truth, 2016 was a bit of a blah, I couldn’t get out of 2017 quick enough and the majority of 2018 left me with more questions than answers, but it also sparked something in me. Call it an awakening, a surrender or a total 180 but 2018, and really all previous years, have been exactly what they needed to be to put me where I am today.
And today is all that matters.
In making a conscious effort to live with a half full glass I am looking back on all the good 2018 has brought me and am ready to forget the less than savory bits.
This years quest to understand myself more has led me to discover me some amazing podcasts and books. These have in turn, led to some personal revelations that are going to leave me with no choice but to have an amazing 2019. I am so thankful for all the inspiring people creating content that reminds me the choice to live a good life is mine alone.
My top three favorite podcasts for 2018
- “Don’t Keep Your Day Job” with Cathy Heller
2. “The School of Greatness” with Lewis Howes
3. “For the Love of Money” with Chris Harder
These people are working their butts off to put out amazing, inspiring and life changing content on a regular basis.
Because I have dog I spend time walking her daily and it has become a cherished ritual to download a podcast and take my girl out for a stroll. Its amazing how quickly I have been able to reprogram my entire thought process by listening to a hour of positivity once a day, and they are all free to download. You just literally can not lose.
Finding time to read this past year has been a bit trickier. With work school and kids I have just had less free time overall than I am accustomed to, but I have still been able to squeeze in some gems.
I like to read self help books slowly, much more slowly than novels which I tend to devour. I read a bit, think about it and will often re-read the same chapters multiple times, underlining insights and even taking notes.
I am one of those readers who always has a few books on the go, and an even bigger list of must reads. There are a lot of good ones out there but if I have to pick just three they would be;
- “Rich Dad Poor Dad” by Robert Kiyosaki
- “You Are A Bad Ass” by Jen Sincero
3. “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson.
Yes, I’m not a dad, and to be honest I have read Robert Kiyosaki’s iconic book once before, but re-reading it this past year opened a whole new bag of insights I had previously overlooked, its also quite a page turner as far as finance meets self help books go. If I can recommend just one book to kick off 2019 on a better financial footing, its this one.
I discovered both Jen Sincero and Mark Manson as guests on podcasts which ultimately led me to buy their books. These two amazing humans are literal breaths of fresh air in the often stuffy self-help realm. Using humor and relatability their books have helped me overhaul my mindset and I feel completely ready to smash 2019 in my own unique way.
All of the listening and reading that I have done in 2018 has been vital in my journey to being a happier healthier self. There are lots of other podcasts and book titles I could throw out there but I like to keep it simple if anyone reading this is new to the self help realm. If I had to sum up my three major revelations of 2018 it would be these….
- There are no problems, only perceptions. Our minds are always running at full speed, it likes to create Drama and does so at every given opportunity. It is how we react to the events in our life that ultimately dictate the outcomes. Life walks in a delicate balance with death. Without bad there could be no perceivable good. It is in the acceptance of this truth that we are able to stop overthinking, let go of expectations and just be. Imagine if you had just narrowly escaped falling from the edge of a cliff, how alive you would suddenly feel and how every moment would be magnified in its magnificence. Would you be worried about something embarrassing you said five years ago or the fact that you have some credit card debt? You would most likely just be filled with gratitude for this amazing gift we call life. In 2019 I will strive to remember that life, and everything in it, is either a gift or a lesson and will be grateful for both.
- Failure is life’s best teacher. No one wins em’ all. Failure is the easiest way to learn where our strengths and weaknesses lie, and we all have both. I dropped out of school last year, I also decided to close down an Etsy shop that I have been running for the past decade. Both of these events could be viewed as failures but I prefer to look at them as opportunities to learn more about what I want out of life. Turns out I hate computer coding and desire to create a bigger business than the brand surrounding my previous Etsy shop ever would have allowed. Both of these things are ok. Did I fail at Etsy? No. I actually opened a new shop in December that is more aligned with who I am and am super excited for all of the opportunities that will come with a blank slate. Did I fail at school? No. I just removed myself from a program I hated and am going to take some marketing and business course that get me excited about the future of my own business.
- I am a fu*king miracle and so are you. The odds of you being born who you are with your particular dna is about 1 in 400 trillion. There is a Buddhist proverb that provides a beautiful metaphor for the probability of this precious incarnation. Imagine there was one life preserver thrown somewhere in one ocean, with exactly one turtle in any given ocean, swimming underwater somewhere. The probability of your existence is the same as that turtle sticking its head out of the water — into the middle of that life preserver on its first try. Those are crazy small odds and yet here we both are. With all the many distractions of life it’s easy to get caught up in the comparison game and forget just how miraculous it is that I am sitting here writing this or you reading it, or petting your dog, or listening to a baby cry or breathing air. This moment is a literal miracle. And it is with this realisation that I will no longer listen to any more negative self talk. I will also go forward into 2019 spending every miraculous second living an authentic life that makes me happy. If happiness is dropping out of school and designing my own clothing line, I owe it to my miraculous ass self to at least try. Should I fail, there will be a lesson at the end of it that I will be grateful for.
And there you have it. My top three of three for 2019. This blog is relatively new so it doesn’t have a huge readership, but if you happen across it and know anyone who could use a positive push in the right direction for 2019 please pass it along.
Wishing you an amazing 2019.